For the last couple of months my lovely other half has been a stay at home Dad, whilst I have gone to work to earn a crust and keep him in the lifestyle that he has become accustomed to. 🙂
To be honest he has a good gig – Baby B goes to nursery 3 days a week!
Whilst I love working and I am lucky enough to work for our own business, I do miss spending time with the boys. Always seems that they have more fun without me!
Today I left the house at 8am, having dressed Baby B and packed his bag for nursery.
The next time I heard from the two boys was at 12.04 when I received the following picture on What’s App –
Feet up (and yes those are my slippers)
Apparently, 21 month old Baby B didn’t fancy nursery today.
I thought that I would come home early to surprise the boys at 1pm. I walked into the house and to be honest it crossed my mind that we may have been burgled. There was stuff everywhere. However, it soon became clear that the quite impressive mess was a result of a hard mornings playing and this was what happened after lunch….
Sleeping Beauties – One downstairs and one upstairs
Alright for some eh – Nice work if you can get it! 🙂
I found this article in The Independent very interesting. This remains a question that I don’t know the answer to. My little one at 20 months still cries himself to sleep some nights and more often then not, will wake up crying in the night. I have read book after book and weighed up the endless advice streams in my own mind and still I don’t know what’s best.
What I do know however, is when my little man starts to cry, I find it VERY hard NOT to tend to him.
It could be argued then, that the reason he wakes up crying in the night is because he won’t go back to sleep until I have run in to stroke his head. And the reason he wakes up so early in the morning and is not good at settling himself back to sleep is because I am not there in the room with him.
When his early mornings were getting silly, i’m talking 4.30am, my other half took control and told me that we should leave him. He wasn’t ill or in pain, and the crying wouldn’t hurt him. We did this and at 4.30 my other half had a screaming baby in one room and a sobbing girlfriend in his room. Needless to say, none of us went back to sleep! But, after a couple of very distressing mornings he did get better.
Over time I have got better at not rushing to our little man’s side. I put him to bed awake but tired and he never really cries for more then five minutes. Sometime, he doesn’t cry at all!
No amount of words will change how a parent feels and I feel that it has to be down to the individuals as to how they deal with their baby. We may not agree with other peoples methods but we have to respect them.
Last night we experienced our first night terror (which for some reason I keep calling a tremor) with Baby B.
Baby B woke up screaming and thrashing around with strength I can only imagine the Incredible Hulk would have been happy with.
Because he has been restless in his sleep lately and suffering with his teeth, I originally thought he woke up crying in pain, but the screaming was so relentless we quickly turned to google.
It was the complete terror on his face that gave it away and the fact that no amount of comforting him was making it better.
I can honestly say that I found it all pretty terrifying and very difficult to watch. We took it in turns trying to cuddle and restrain him. He was like a child possessed. I took a nice backwards head butt to the lip and Daddy took to the guitar to see if a quick rendition of Ho Hey by the Lumineers (Baby B’s favourite song) could help rouse him from his nightmare sleep.
Nothing worked. In the end, Baby B calmed down and started to drift off lying on my chest into a peaceful sleep. In total I think he screamed and fought us for nearly 15 minutes.
Is there anything that can be done to help avoid night terrors!? (Not tremors, googling night tremors took me down a whole different path!) Without sounding dramatic, I can’t bare the thought of them happening regularly, even though Wikipedia assures me that the children don’t remember them – I think I will! I had read about them but I didn’t think they could be soo awful.
Just when you think peaceful sleep filled nights are coming your way…….
Poor little dude, he sounds rather sexy today with hoarse voice after all the screaming, but you would never know that he turned into a boy version of the Exorcist last night and Wikipedia says that I shouldn’t remind him!
Living up to the name, we are awake, hence the impromptu post written on my mobile in the dark.
Awesome! (Not sure if the sarcasm is seeping through there or not?!)
So Baby B is wideo, screaming blue murder if you leave him alone, snot everywhere and there really is no sign of him getting tired. Perhaps the 6 hrs he’s already slept from 7pm till 1am will do him! Great.
Give him credit though he does manage to pause his screaming to still grate me with a rather perky ‘Elo Mumma’ in his best cockney twang when I go into his room to attempt to calm him down.
In all seriousness I find this really hard. Breaks my heart to hear him crying like he is. Just want to scoop him up and cuddle him but me and Adult A ( Baby B’s daddy) made a pact that we would stop bringing him into our bed.
Adult A asked that perhaps we knocked it on the head as the small double bed really wasn’t big enough for the three of us and he was getting a bit bored of using the bed side table as a pillow.
So here we are. I’m in bed typing, Adult A is in Baby B’s room head stroking and we are all awake.
Is it wrong to have a rich tea at this hour?!